I dreamed of a wedding of elaborate elegance; a church filled with flowers and friends. I asked him what kind of wedding he wished for; he said one that would make me his wife. Anon
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up. Joseph Barth
The curse which lies upon marriage is that too often the individuals are joined in their weakness rather than in their strength - each asking from the other instead of finding pleasure in giving. Simone de Beauvoir
MARRIAGE, n. The state or condition of a community consisting of a master, a mistress, and two slaves, making in all, two. Ambrose Bierce
Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution. Mae West
A good marriage is like a good trade. Each thinks he got the better deal. Ivern Ball
Occurring on January 9, the Cancer full Moon is an interesting one and one that brings up issues of relating and relationships. The Sabian Symbol is Cancer 19: A Fragile Miss, Representative Of Proud Old Blood, Is Wed In A Marriage Ceremony By A Priest To An Eager Youth Of The New Order, or more simply, A Priest Performing a Marriage Ceremony.
This Symbol speaks of commitments and unions between people that require the making of vows and promises. Although it obviously speaks very much about marriage, the theme does not have to be marriage in itself, it can speak of agreements between people, contractual agreements all the way to verbal promises and commitments of the heart.
From my book The Sabian Oracle: 360 Degrees Of Wisdom:
A ‘Marriage’ of any kind can bring people together and produce wonderful things as a result. There comes a time when the ‘Old’ ways, ideas or behaviors need to be renewed with fresh ‘Blood’. But the old ways should not be merely replaced by updated methods, but rather blended to attain the best of both worlds. The important thing is what this union can produce. This is the birth of something with potential for change, new ideas and new growth. There may be some problems in the early stages, as others may object to this ‘Marriage’. The ‘Eager Youth’ may not immediately fit the stereotype of the ‘Fragile Miss’’ family. Sometimes there’s the fear of upsetting family by introducing new people or even new ideas. Every type of ‘Marriage’ needs to go through its ups and downs. Bridging generation gaps, altering prejudices, updating ‘Old’ ideas and breaking social rules can come as a result of any successful union. A simple expression of our heart and mind may be acknowledged in ritual performances or a ‘Ceremony’ of some kind. This may require a sanctification, or blessing, from a higher power or authority.
Keywords: Wedding ceremonies. Sanctified unity. Expressions of loyalty and allegiance. Making sacred vows. Commitment to a person or project. New ventures involving a lowering of accepted standards. Breaking social norms. Integration of heart and mind. Bridging generation gaps. Marriage guidance. Contracts signed and honored. Hand claspings. Hatch, match and dispatch ceremonies. Celebrants.
The Caution: Rigidly following established rules at the expense of new ways that may have greater personal relevance. Forcing people to come together. Bondage to social expectations. Arranged marriages. Taking risks with partners. Conforming to the expectations of others.
So, while this Symbol speaks of 'Marriage', it also can bring up issues to do with commitments, vows and decisions about the future.
The Karmic Condition (the degree before) the full Moon is Cancer 18: A Hen Is Scratching For Her Chicks. This speaks of looking after youngsters or those who can't, or won't, look after themselves. There may be a need to put one's needs aside in order to cater to others and to protect and nurture them.
Keywords: Searching for sustenance. Being devoted to nurturing small beginnings. Concern for the essential, small details. Repetitive cycles of things that have to be done. Being the“breadwinner”. Doing one’s duty. Being loaded with responsibility. Children. Progeny. Feeding others. Catering. Seeding ideas. Latch key children. Working long hours.
The Caution: Pointless searching where there is no nourishment. Fussing too much. Not letting people grow up. Neglecting to nourish those who need it. Acting like a mother hen. No life of one’s own. Becoming a martyr for others. Self-sacrifice. ‘Scratching’ for tiny rewards. Co dependence. Tiring responsibilities.
It's interesting to note that the marriage degree has the 'looking after the children' degree as the Karmic Condition.
The degree of the Sun at this full Moon is Capricorn 19: A Child Of About Five Carrying A Huge Shopping Bag Filled With Groceries. Being exactly opposite the marriage degree, this can show the responsibilities inherent in having a family or having people who are dependent on you. It can also show single people who are by themselves, having to do everything and not having much help. The load can be onerous at times and there may be the longing to have someone to share one's life with. This Symbol also speaks of youngsters that have too much responsibility to shoulder; having to carry the load for their parents perhaps, having to grow up too quickly or perhaps finding it difficult to pay the rent or the mortgage and keep up with their debts and the burdens they may be carrying.
So, this full Moon is speaking about commitments, responsibilities, doing the chores, providing nourishment and shelter and issues to do with the heart.
It's interesting to note that Saturn is in Libra, the sign that rules marriage. Saturn is on Libra 29: Mankind's Vast Enduring Effort For Knowledge Transferable From Generation To Generation. This speaks about handing things down, passing on knowledge, possessions or whatever from generation to generation.
Keywords: Interpreting and conveying beliefs and ideas. The desire to pass on something to others. Handing down possessions or knowledge. Knowledge being changed, modified or updated. Teaching by example. The wisdom of the ancestors. Research into history. Striving for answers. Books and the spoken word. Encyclopedias and reference books. The gift of knowledge.
The Caution: A belief that one knows it all. Information, knowledge or riches inherited by only the select few. Reliance on tradition. Fundamentalism. Doing what’s always been done, regardless of why.
What is it that you're handing down? What are you passing on to others?
Mercury is on a somewhat difficult degree - Capricorn 2: Three Stained-Glass Windows In A Gothic Church, One Damaged By War. This speaks of the need to regain wholeness - to regroup after a difficult experience or life situation. There needs to be a redemption around the issue of love and trust in order to make the 'Three Stained-Glass Windows' whole and beautiful again. With Uranus exactly squaring Mercury, there can be some things said, or thought, in haste, and decisions made can turn out to be not very well thought through.
Keywords: Seeking sanctuary. Careless aggression where love should be. Religious or philosophical differences that spark off problems. Fears of being “under attack” whilst in the spotlight. Sorrow and despair over losses. Loss of faith. ‘Windows’ that are cracked, broken or shattered. Cracks and shattering. Rescue of endangered holy places. Loss of love through harsh circumstance. The need for repair.
The Caution: Feeling disconnected from the reality of what’s going on. Fearfulness OR fearlessness, when one should be careful. Signs of rubble all around. Aggression between people. Burning down churches. A lack of safe places. Being shell-shocked and ravaged. Cold breezes entering sacred spaces. Psychological and emotional scars. Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide.
This was the degree of Mars on 9/11 and I hope that Mercury being on this degree at this full Moon is not going to spark another problem. The war drums beating against Iran are particularly disturbing. I hope it's all bluster.
Part of the issue with the windows being blown out is that many are wanting to do more with their lives, to write, paint, sing, have fun, express themselves. I say this because the degree following Mercury's degree is the degree of the solar eclipse new Moon that occurred smack on Christmas - Capricorn 3: The Human Soul, In Its Eagerness For New Experiences, Seeks Embodiment. How are you embodying your talents, your abilities, your possibilities? I feel that directly after the full Moon that many are going to find a great push towards doing what they want and they could also easily find the vehicle to do it.
Uranus' message is to employ fun and humor and to not take things too seriously. The Symbol is Aries 2: A Comedian Entertaining A Group Of Friends. The trick here is to smile and laugh as much as possible, even if things are being really difficult as it is by doing this that the energy dissolves.
Venus is on Aquarius 24: A Man Turning His Back On His Passions Teaches Deep Wisdom From His Experience. This Symbol speaks about turning away from things that may have brought satisfaction, and perhaps fulfillment, in the past but are no longer useful or part of your journey forward. What do you need to turn away from in order to be more fulfilled or to find a greater sense of peace?
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Anon
Keywords: Conquering one’s base nature. Changing through maturing realizations. Learning lessons the hard way. Realizing it’s time to let go of things that once mattered. Being an example so others may learn. Reforming one’s ways. Dignity. Guidance. Turning around. Dropping the lower ego or society. Leading a monastic life.
The Caution: Giving up on emotional growth. Being dissatisfied with life. Being forced to perform for another’s benefit. Sticking to things that are no longer worthwhile. Stubborn refusal to move forward. Misguiding others. Severe reactions.
Just moments after the full Moon, Venus flips onto the next degree - Aquarius 25: A Butterfly With The Right Wing More Perfectly Formed. This warns against losing one's balance, to not be flapping around and not getting anywhere because of imbalance in one's life. Finding equilibrium is key to this.
Mars is soon to go retrograde and is slowly moving. It's on Virgo 22: A Royal Coat Of Arms Enriched With Precious Stones. This symbolizes the need, possibility or desire, of being enriched by one's sense of self, by one's heritage or standing in the community. With Mars here, there could be a feeling of having to do it all by one's self; to nurture and nourish a sense of royalty and pride in one's self and your place in life, regardless of where you come from. The trick is to stay connected with your center and to give yourself a sense of pride and place in the scheme of things.
Jupiter is on Taurus 1: A Clear Mountain Stream Flows Steadily Downstream which shows a sense of being in the stream, of flowing with the energies available to you, not fighting to row upstream or fighting the current, but being in the flow of things. A sense of having the current at your back can propel you forward towards your dreams with Jupiter on this degree.
Neptune is on the last degree of Aquarius as it is making its way into Pisces. The Symbol is Aquarius 30: Moonlit Fields, Once Babylon, Are Blooming White. It's interesting that this Symbol is highlighted as we go into 2012, with all the talk of the end of civilization as we know it. Of course, this was not about the end of the world, however, there is a big shift going on in the hearts and minds of many who want to create a better world. There is a sense of decay in this degree and remnants from the past may come up to be picked over.
Keywords: Rewards coming through from past generations. The feeling of ancestors surrounding one’s present deeds. Alchemy. Loss of ancient civilizations. Reverence for things from the past. The Middle East and all things middle-eastern. Belly-dancing. Rebirths of old civilizations. Grandeur. Seeds of the past becoming fruits of the present. Records. Fields that were once Avalon.
The Caution: Disbelieving because there are no rational structures or support. Destroying ancient lands or monuments because of religious beliefs or greed. The devastation and ruin of Iraq in order for the modern world to succeed. Projecting the sins of the world onto people or places that are foreign.
Curiously, the idea of past civilizations and the continuing decay of our present civilization is shown through the Moon's north node on Sagittarius 14: A Vast Panorama Of Sand And Time Is Unfolding; The Pyramid And Sphinx In Their Glory Rise Before The Eye. This Symbol speaks of working hard at building something in your life, whether it's making money or building a house, a home or an empire, it can feel like there's a lot of work and time involved. It can also show a situation where you're working hard at building someone else's empire while you're wondering where your rewards are. This is particularly true when one is working for a big company and getting little back from the effort. There's also a focus on history and the wonder of ancient lands and times.
As with Uranus' message, Pluto seems to be suggesting to keep a light-hearted mind. The Symbol is Capricorn 8: Birds In The House Singing Happily.
Keywords: Being at one with everything. Tunes sung or whistled.The promise of contentment. Communal sharing and fun. Faith in the good things of life. Music. Instruments. Playing the piano.Singing. The radio. Chattering in the background. Entertaining others. Seeing the beauty in life. Reminding others of how life can be rewarding. The sound of voices. Birds. Positive thinking.
The Caution: Idle chatter. Smug superiority and the feeling that one has it all. Not seeing the happiness inherent in one’s everyday life. Whining and complaining. Making a noise for the sake of it. Looking only at the difficulties one faces. Feeling caged in.Unable to fly when and where one wants to. Loneliness. Feeling abandoned by the good things.